Sunday, 24 June 2018

Dear Sober Faye...


Dear Sober Faye,

Hey bitch, guess who? How’s your head? (Joke answer - ‘I’ve had no complaints’. And you thought spending all those days in bed bingeing Ru Pauls Drag Race episodes was a waste of your precious life!)

I drank that Cava you had in the fridge. I know you said you were saving it for a night in with your roommate this weekend but I drank it and that happened. It just all happened so fast. Oh and I re-downloaded Bumble for you because I’m concerned you’ll die alone. I used a David Brent quote as your bio so you’ll be swarmed with male genitalia in no time! Maybe consider taking some nudes in preparation for all the sexy chat you’re about to have? Chill out, just a suggestion. 

I’ve had such a fun night!! I did you a favour and called all of your most recent exes relentlessly and was sure to leave various voicemails so they’d know you meant business! I just assumed they all wanted to know how you were doing and how much you’re thriving since they all stopped finding you attractive. I made sure to tell them several times that you don’t miss them. I played it so cool. I was like a bloody iceberg. I could’ve destroyed the Titanic with how COOL I played it.

I just finished McNugget number 18 and I keep getting sick burps but I’ll force the next 2 down because I know you haaaaaattttte waste. I’m just so hungry and so sad. ReMeMbEr wHeN yOu UsEd tO wRiTe eVeRyThInG LiKe tHiS?! wHy dId yOu sToP dOiNg tHiS? iTs sO fUcKiNg fUn. bAhHhHhH aRgHhH bOoOoOoOoBiEs. Anyway.

I drank that wine you had in the kitchen. I know you said you were saving it for your friend visiting next week and you wanted to seem like the kind of person who just has wine in their flat all the time and you didn’t want to rush to Tesco whenever you have guests coming over but I drank it and were just gonna have to accept it. Again, it happened really fast. Time got away from me. 

Thanks for leaving all our skincare out next to our bed - I guess you assumed it would mean I would properly clean my face before I head to dreamland but jokes on you, I will be young and supple forever so I don’t need skincare. I am beautiful in every single way, words won’t bring me down, noooo! Just like Christina told us!!! Wanna know what Christina Aguilera didn't tell us? Tit sweat happens. It's a mare and I'm smothered. When you're in bed all day tomorrow, google how much breast reductions are or how much it is to singe off all your sweat glands. I'll ask for it for christmas from mum and dad. 

You’d be soooo proud of me - I made tons of new toilet pals tonight and I complimented all of them numerous times and asked where all of their dresses were from because I'm the nicest guy in town. Were now all following each other on Twitter and we even danced to R.Kelly together. Don’t worry you boring beast, we OBVS talked about how bad a guy he is but you KNOW how I get when ‘Ignition (remix)’ comes on! That’s my lady jam! Side note - have you ever heard the non ‘remix’ version of Ignition or do you reckon he just put that in the title? I’ve finished the nuggets now. I have ketchup in my hair. 

I think I left the fridge open but I’m too cosy to go and look so I’m sorry in advance if i made a whoopsie. Why does everything have to be refrigerated anyway? Cavemen were fine and had no fridge. If anything, they thrived without electricity distracting them. I sick burped again. I haven’t checked my bag to make sure I have everything with me so could you be a sweet little lamb and check it tomorrow between your vomits? Be right back…

I was sick. 

Kindest Regards and Best Wishes,

dRuNk fAyE

xoxo

PS. I wet the bed a little/loads/some. sOrRyYyYyY.

Sunday, 17 June 2018

If I Was a Rich Girl....

Pic: Me last week spending the day in Kensington, living my best fake rich life

Believe it or not (but believe it because it’s the truth), for the past 18 months, I was the sole person in charge of every bill, rent payment and issue that arose in my flatshare. And by ‘issue’ I mean things like the heating not working, the stove making odd noises and the washing machine flooding our kitchen floor. And by ‘in charge’, I mean I would have to call our landlord and beg him to help us and chase him until he stopped ignoring my texts like a boy from Tinder who ghosts you after you flatly refuse to sext with him or send him pictures of your bare boobies. I was the Wizard of Oz of my flat and my two roommates adopted the roles of the moronic Scarecrow and obnoxious Lion who came to me for every little annoying request whilst I busied myself doing grown up things like getting the meter reading and making spreadsheets to keep an eye on our monthly outgoings (I even took the bins out alone weekly whilst they cooked stench-filled fish based dinners and ignored me struggling loudly but that’s another story for another time). By May, I had finally had enough of being the den mother for two aggressively Conservative millennials that were not only younger than me but on salaries of around £10k more than me a year - I finally jumped ship for a nicer flat with a frankly much better roommate. Leaving the flat I’d lived in for 3+ years felt like a reasonably simple prospect because hey, people move around in to different flat shares all the time in London! What a piece of cake this will be…(carrot cake, I assume, the most triumphant of all the cakes) 

As I sat down to go through all of our final bills before I moved on to a ‘greener grass’ scenario, the list of all the bits and bobs I needed to cancel, move and replace for the flat and the lack of money in our ‘joint account’ (an account I had to open in my name because everyone else refused - do I sound bitter? because I am) It began to stress me out so badly, I had to physically hide from all of it and go watch a Goldie Hawn film in bed to deal with the anxiety. I couldn’t help but think that an endless supply of money would solve all of these specific woes, my worries would be non-existent, I could move out and leave my stress in my rented mould-filled bedroom. Unfortunately, for reasons I am in no way control of (they were twats), I wasn’t close enough with the two women I occupied a home with to sit down and talk the bill stress through, so instead I distracted my mind. As a mood-lifter after facing the money dragon head-on, updating my spreadsheets and even finding a tiny pot of cash left over to cover the inevitable final bills we’d need to fork out for, I proceeded to dream of a better life where money wasn’t a worry. Oh, what a life that would be.

Oprah Winfrey used to speak about manifesting things you want by being focused on them, writing them down and putting these dreams out in to the universe, so in honour of this sound logic, I compiled a list of the things I would purchase if money was no object. Please peruse at your own leisure and make no judgements as, when writing this list, I was reaching a stress level of Love Island contestants when mean tweets about them are read as part of a ‘challenge’ (“one viewer wrote that one of the girls in the villa is a shitface bitchhole who has cellulite on her neck. Now, throw a cup of custard over the girl you think this tweet was about…” genius. Reality TV producers really are unsung heroes in my opinion):

  • A personal trainer who motivates me by yelling Beyonce lyrics directly in to my face in a stern but caring way throughout our workouts. These will be daily except for any day I feel sad and don’t want human interaction/not in the mood to sweat/have just washed my hair.
  • A laboratory filled with sexy glass-wearing scientists who are able to remove 99% of calories from all food. I can binge and binge and binge and never be called a lardy ass again.
  • Every door knob and plate from Anthropologie. I will put whimsical knobs on everything and no one can say a damn thing about it!
  • A giant suite in my favourite Disney World hotel that is always vacant apart from when I visit approx 3-18 times a year. Marie from Aristocats will greet me at the airport and will join me for breakfast on my balcony every morning. She’ll have her usual bowl of milk please, SO FUCKING CUTE, RIGHT?!?! 
  • A book deal and so much promotion for my book that people are almost forced to buy it. I want it really shoved down peoples throats that I’ve written a bunch of words. I will be nude on the cover because I thrive on controversy and my parents will have something they can brag to their friends about - “did you hear, our Faybees has a book deal! and yes, her breasts are real, don’t they hang triumphantly?”
  • A private Spice Girls concert every year for my birthday. They will all perform, yes, even you Victoria, get off your high horse will you.
  • A giant New York apartment that overlooks Central Park and a giant London apartment that overlooks the Thames. When I say giant, I mean like 3 bedrooms because I get scared of monsters/rapists/ghosts at night. I will also require nightlights in every room. Good thing money isn’t a problem, that electricity bill will be cray, am I right?!
  • I’d pay for Diana Ross, Cher, Lady Gaga and Adele to collaborate on an album for me and only me. They will also tour this album and do an album signing - both of these events will happen in my mansion and I’ll only invite people who’ve never called me fat.
  • Four Persian cats (misc colours) - each of which will have a personal assistant to feed and groom them so I can be there purely for snuggles and instagram photo shoots. The assistants will not be allowed to hug them incase the cats end up loving me less. I want to be these cats Messiah and I simply won’t accept anything less.
  • A walk-in Wardrobe with a computer clothing system like in the film ‘Clueless’ - all outfits to be curated by Pandora Sykes and Gok Wan and will all be made with adjustable seams for when I eat big lunches and feel like a bloated pig person.
  • The Parks & Recreation full DVD boxset. I know this seems weird but it’s like £70 and I can’t justify it until I’m rich. 
  • A private Starbucks in my home ala the film ‘Richy Rich’ - I know he had a McDonalds but that’s not chic and my personal trainer would simply murder me *rich woman laugh*
  • Furniture that isn’t from Ikea.
  • Weekly trips to the hair salon to sort my 1995 Courtney Love hair out. I’ll never be confused for a homeless lad again. Oh and hair transplants to cover my bald spots - I’d like this hair to be taken directly from the scalp of someone much more beautiful than me so it evens things out a bit. 
  • A 24/7 chauffeur who doesn’t engage in small talk and who drives a Prius because I’m rich, not a fucking animal. Tinted windows though so I can pretend I'm in music videos to all the songs on the radio and not be judged by fellow drivers or pedestrians. 
  • Presents for my parents daily - all the things they’ve ever dreamed of owning so I can cement my place as the favourite child. Shoutout to my sister Kara, I win.
  • The rights to ALL of Whitney Houston’s music. I will only allow her songs to be used in the most respectful way and Kanye can’t have any of them.
  • VIP & backstage passes to every festival (music, food and gin based only. Don’t waste my time with any other subject matter. A craft beer festival can suck my dick.)
  • Bo Burnham on the payroll as my live-in lover.

Pic: A billboard near my flat that spoke to me on a deep level. I love East London.

Every item listed above was off the cuff and I had to stop before it got out of hand. I even resorted to prostitution at the end which can only confirm that a bottomless pit of money would make me a monster. The conclusion here, I think we can all agree, is that it’s probably for the best that I am not a wealthy woman. I don’t think I could stay humble. I dislike too many people for that to be a possibility and would marvel in buying things they dream of and flaunting it in front of them. This got nasty quite quickly and I really need to deep dive on my mental state.

Love Faye xoxo

Aka ‘moneybagz’

Sunday, 10 June 2018

Dear Drunk Faye...


Dear Drunk Faye,

How’re you doing girl? Sober Faye here, just checking in and making sure you haven’t wandered off for attention again. First things first, how’re you enjoying that 20 McNugget Sharebox? So smart of you to get TWO medium fries for you and your imaginary friend to throw off the teenage fast food employee - even when wasted, you’re fearful of looking like a gluttonous hog and I admire that. Eating both portions of fries before you left McDonalds and aggressively yelling that they didn’t give you the 80 ketchups you requested was a bit of a giveaway though, just a heads up for next time.


So, how was your night? Just a word of warning, please don’t look at your phone as soon as you wake up. Your hangover will be brewing, you’ll be overly emotional and I’m not quite sure you’ll be ready to face the messages and phone calls you made whilst in the midst of a blackout. When will you learn that shots are never a good idea? I know, I know, your pals forced you. I really wish you’d grow out of reacting to peer pressure like Billy Big Bollocks but alas, you’re a people pleaser and must now suffer the vomit-inducing consequences. I hope you’re proud of yourself. 

A little note for the future, your friends, family, ex-boyfriends and colleagues don’t need to hear from you at 3am on a Wednesday night (and if your exes don’t answer the phone after one try, please put your phone away. Them waking up to 13 missed calls from you and various voicemails is just humiliating. They WILL save these voicemails to play back to you and you’ll ponder death in a real serious way). Maybe from now on, you should turn your phone off when you’re drinking heavily? A light suggestion from a mate. While were on the subject, please stop drunk calling your sister and dad at 1am, it’s not funny and it just makes them panic. Oh and for the love of god, stop replying to everyones Instagram stories, it just leads to horrendously awkward small talk the next day and that is frankly the last thing you need to deal with whilst hungover. I'm just awaiting the day you go off the rails and start drunk messaging people on LinkedIn. Oh, that happened last night? Good. 


Drunk Faye, hun, stop treating booze like truth serum - no one, and I mean NO ONE needs to know how bad your mental health is currently and they certainly don't need to know (in graphic detail) the things you like or would change about your vagina. Save those juicy anecdotes for your diary or maybe don’t discuss it at all? just a thought. Anywho, did you make any nice new friends when you visited the toilets 15-30 times last night? I know you like to be everyones BFF and be Mrs ‘Make it Rain’ when you’re out in groups but please try and not spend too much money - just go to Sainsburys and smuggle in some Gins in Tins to the club, I promise you’ll thank me tomorrow! Maybe even treat yourself to one of those tiny bottles of prosecco? You can do that joke you love about you being a giant and it actually being a normal sized bottle of bubbly. LOL, gets me every time. Such a crowdpleaser!


I’ve put some bits in the fridge for you for tomorrow including some chocolate you’ll inevitably vomit up in the nearest sink and a litre of coke zero for you to drink straight out of the bottle like a human trash bag - when you wake up tomorrow horrifically early (because life is unfair and you know you can’t sleep when you’re white woman wasted), you will still be drunk so try to shower straight away before the hangover really kicks in to gear otherwise you’ll be bed bound with ‘festival body’ (various scents, mostly booze and regret) and will repeatedly beg your roommate for a sponge bath. She’ll just say no and it’ll make you paranoid. Again, it’s not that she doesn’t want to see you naked, it just a weird request to ask as a capable human adult. 

I’ll be livid if you’ve wet the bed.

All the best,

Sober Faye 

xoxo

P.S - Wait until you’ve finished having your ‘hungover tactical chunders’ before you order deliveroo, if you order it during, it'll just be cold by the time you finish puking and crying. No one likes a cold nandos. How have you not learnt this lesson yet? Every fucking time.

P.P.S - Genuinely, I’ll be fuming if you’ve pissed the bed.


Sunday, 4 February 2018

Blackout


I made a vow to myself when I turned 27 that I would leave the days of tactical-vomitting and blacking out due to alcohol consumption very much in my past. I’m 27 now, the year of growth and self improvement and losing all memory of my night in a wine glass just feels irresponsible and frankly, a little embarrassing. I made it 2 weeks in to 2018 before I broke my personal vow and found myself running like Usain Bolt through my flat so I could throw up all of my bad decisions from the previous night (and morning). 

Blacking out from heavy drinking is unfortunately not that foreign to me. I used to be prone to it in fact - even after 3 glasses of sickly sweet cheap Rose wine, I would become a booze soaked zombie for the next six hours but after years of avoiding this, I thought I was ‘out of the woods’ and had grown out of experiences like that. For the 3rd Saturday in a row, I have woken up miraculously safe in my own bed, in cosy pyjamas, with my make up fully removed, all of my belongings with me (but strewn all over my bedroom) and with zero recollection as to how I got there except a staggeringly expensive uber receipt in my email inbox. I’m very lucky to not have lost a debit card, house key or phone so far *touches every bit of wood in the world* which can only prove that although I am fully out of my body during these alcohol fuelled nights, I am still very much uptight and severely untrusting of others around my belongings - I probably still wear my bag and coat when peeing half in the loo and half all over the floor in bar toilets. 

The next day is always a riot. What did I do? Who did I speak to? Why do I have so many missed calls from friends? Did I go walkabouts? Why didn’t I stop at MdDonalds on the way home?! Not only do I waste a good night out when I blackout, but I also ruin the next day and end up lying around like a trash monster until I have enough energy to leave my bed so I can forage for food (in my local Waitress, I’m not complete garbage after all) or shower off all of the hot-sweat-regret from the night before. There's only so many times I can spend a Saturday in bed re-watching The Office (the UK one, obviously). Along with the post-drinking depression comes the tiny reminders of your behaviour a few hours ago…remembering asking someone for their number and getting unceremoniously denied in front of your friends…kissing someone you definitely shouldn’t be…shouting at a bouncer because they ‘looked at you funny’….grabbing a friends phone and throwing it on the ground…spilling your drink all over a stranger….never the good things though. I never have flashes of helping the homeless or making sure a friend gets home safe. No. I’m a selfish drunk who makes terrible choices.

With all that being said, this is a public acknowledgment of my awful behaviour in the hopes that shaming myself might force me to make better decisions in the future. Or at the very least, anyone who reads this will know what to expect when on a night out with me so I can say ‘what did THINK would happen? Oh and sorry again for smashing your phone, I’m so silly’.

In order to avoid blacking out in the future, I will adhere to the following rules:

- I will not drink more than one alcoholic beverage every 30 minutes.

- I will not do shots of any kind, EVEN if friends buy them for me and call me boring (I’ve never been good with peer pressure- ESPECIALLY when lovely boys do it)

- I will only order singles or small glasses of wine/prosecco (no more requesting my prosecco to be served in a giant merlot glass)

- If I do drink a little too much, as a punishment to myself, I will request an Uber Pool instead of an Uber X for my journey home. Nothing says ‘what is my life?’ like having to share a confined car ride home with strangers AS drunk and annoying as you.

- If I really fancy getting shit-faced on booze, I will simply wait until I get home and drink in privacy of my own flat. This way, I can be as embarrassing as I want but not shame myself in to oblivion the next day and have to send the ‘sorry I was such a mess…’ texts to friends.

- Never drink and swipe on online dating apps….but this is a rule for another time.

Stay safe out there, you little booze-hounds.


Faye x

Sunday, 7 January 2018

27 Lessons For My 27th Birthday


It’s new years day and the 27th anniversary of my birth. Having a birthday on new years day is, for lack of a better word, horseshit. Not only are the majority of my loved ones hungover from drinking until 4am, they are also tired, fresh out of cash and in no mood to pay attention to me. I don’t blame anyone for this, other than my selfish parents who were bad at planning (and despite several requests, they refused to allow me to have a second birthday in the summer like the Queen - I’m pretty sure the Queen get’s two birthdays but to be honest, I’m slightly tipsy and cba to Google it).  

For the first time, I have decided to take my birthday in to my own hands and this year I treated myself to 2 nights away in the New Forest. I am currently living my best life in my beautiful (and fancy af) garden suite room, I have a mimosa to the left of me, wrapped up in a cosy robe and slippers which have been provided by my hotel and I have consumed more chocolate then anyone should, ever. This is the romantic birthday getaway I’ve always dreamed of. Happy birthday to me.

Anyway, my birthday falling on the start of a new year always feels like an ideal time for some ‘life tweaks’ and although I’m not a fan of ‘New Years Resolutions’, I am a fan of setting myself achievable goals based on lessons learned in the past. For instance, next year I’d like to be less complacent generally in life. This is something I have learnt about myself over the past 12 months, I am incredibly complacent due to my hatred of change so this is something I'd really like to examine and work on in 2018. 

In the theme of reflecting on lessons learned and in honour of my 27th year on this planet, I have written a list (fuck, I love lists!) of 27 lessons that I have picked up in the past 9,490 days:

*Obviously, these are all personal to me and my experiences.


1. Travelling alone is the best way to travel. I prefer train journeys alone, solo flights and trips away with me, myself and I. I’ve had a few trips alone now and just find them to be a bit more relaxing and I don’t have the guilt of being an annoyance to someone when I want to wander around Duty Free in airports 7 times before my flight. Usually I’ll wander in once briefly and then have a few Bellini’s with my giant full english breakfast and insist on going back in 6 times. In hindsight, maybe I shouldn’t travel alone. Although I enjoy the odd trip with a loved one, I try to take myself away on a little ‘Fayecation’ at least twice a year so I can get all of my favourite holiday pastimes out of my system - these include waking up early, reading/writing in complete silence for hours at a time, refusing to wear any clothing until I have to leave my hotel room for food and day drinking in bathtubs. 

2. Drunk phone calls are NEVER a good idea and will NEVER get the results you are hoping for (unless all you’re hoping for is ‘next day dread’ or a booty call from a vile ex). Despite them always feeling like a fantastic idea after 8 gins, they never are and I’ve never made a drunken call and felt good about it the next day. Never. I once called an ex boyfriend at 3am because my friend was vomiting (due to too much booze) and I explained to him that ‘I remember you told me once that you hated the smell of vomit, so my pal chundering all over my bathroom made me think of you, I miss your face’. He never spoke to me again and I think about that call almost daily. The shudders are real, people.

3. Black coffee is not only delicious but it makes you look chic as fuck. I work in a beautiful office that is filled to the brim with beautiful milk-thieves so changes needed to be made and stubbornly I stopped buying milk for my coffees/colleagues coffees. That led to a forced admiration for black coffee and now I even drink it at home, of my own volition (with a sweetener because I’m not quite ‘full Parisian’ yet), delicious. Seriously, I drink it at home EVEN when I have other beverage options! Nothing makes me feel more like a grown-ass-woman. (I bet Meryl Streep also loves black coffee - what DON’T we have in common?!|)

4. Just because I’m not shy, doesn’t mean I’m not an introvert. I am a reasonably outgoing person and can be loud (and incredibly obnoxious at times) but I am also an introvert - you can be both, shocking, I know. I first learned the true definition of being an introvert when I read Amy Schumer’s book (‘The Girl With The Lower Back Tattoo’ - I highly recommend it) and it felt like a weight had been lifted. After a lot of research and chats with councillors, I finally understood why I act the way I do - I can be loud, I can be funny but I can also need my time alone to recharge and moments in the day when I need to be silent and in my own thoughts. After a few hours of socialising, my energy is gone and I often pull a Houdini (slyly leave a party without saying goodbye to anyone - I usually achieve this by saying I’m going to the loo). I’m not shy, I am an introvert and just need my alone time.

5. I am VERY fortunate to have a sister who doubles as a best friend. Over the past few years especially, I have realised how special my relationship with Kara is. She is the first person I want to speak to when I’m upset, the first person I want to tell my good news to and the only person on this planet that I can spend continual days and nights with and not be sick of them. She can always make me laugh, she let’s me rant her ears off when I’ve had a bad day and she makes everything more fun. She’s even adorable when forcing me to take selfies with her - doesn’t sound too bad but she never likes the first 18 attempts and it quickly becomes a chore. Plus, I’ve noticed that when I’m having my picture taken, I stop breathing. So…her constant selfie attempts are actually life-threatening to me. 

6. You should NEVER talk politics with family. Making it through the Brexit vote and 2017’s general election without permanently disowning several members of my blood family is a tiny miracle. Don’t even get me started on some of my families opinions on Trump…

7. I’m at my best when I’m creating. Nothing makes me happier than creating something, even if it’s utter shite or a blog post no one will read *coughs*. I get such endorphins from creating something from nothing - if this is what hard drugs are like, maybe I will give them a go!

8. Shopping for anything other than food and dvd’s is a stress-filled shit show. Now, don’t get me wrong, I LOVE a lazy mall stroll (or a ‘Grandma Stroll’ as I lovingly call it), a leisurely stroll around Westfields shopping centre on a chilled Sunday morning with a coffee is one of my favourite pastimes but the second I have to go shopping for anything specific or an outfit for an occasion, it all goes downhill, fast. Maybe it’s my current position on the higher end of the clothing size in all high street shops but the stress shopping with an actual intention causes is horrible and those are the days you NEVER find what you’re looking for (because ‘god’ loves watching us all fail)! Spending countless weekends this year searching for an outfit for my best friends wedding was so exhausting and awful for my mental health, I genuinely considered spending £599 on a designer dress so the pain would be over - but then I remembered how poor I am and walked straight back in to Zara. 

9. Just because something is popular and your friends love it, doesn’t mean you have to force yourself to enjoy it. Prime example: I hate going clubbing and have spent countless nights drinking heavily in cheesy clubs whilst wearing uncomfortable heels, being beyond miserable on the inside and counting down the minutes until it’s an appropriate time to go home via McDonalds JUST because some friends fancied it and I was too scared they’d think I was a loser if I said I didn’t want to go. It’s okay to not do things you don’t want to - as my best friend tells me every time I give myself a hard time for not wanting to do things others find fun, ‘Treat Yourself’ and have a night in instead! I love nothing more than an early night and an early morning - and house music is terrible, I don’t believe anyone who says its good. Another example: I thought ‘The Last Jedi’ was incredibly underwhelming. THERE. I said it.

10. Be selective with photos. A few years ago, I wouldn’t read a new book, go anywhere, buy something or eat a meal without feeling the need to share it with the world via social media. Experiences of any kind weren’t worth anything to me unless I posted at least 1,095,362 photographs of it so I could prove to friends, family & strangers that I was living life to the fullest and doing cool things. Turns out, no one cares about what you’re doing nearly as much as you care. I rarely look back on photos of trips or gigs and think “thank ‘GOD’ I took 14 photo albums worth of pictures from that event! The weather WAS great that day, I was worried I’d remembered it wrong!” its unnecessary. I went away to Florida in October and for the first time, I just took photos of the things I truly wanted to remember and most of these live privately on my phone now because they were taken solely for my benefit. I shared a few nice holiday snaps on my Instagram but I tried to use the ‘quality over quantity’ method this holiday (and I desperately wanted to show off how nice the weather was). Whenever I see people posting several collages worth of photos from a single night out, I instantly think they weren’t having a genuinely good time. You don’t have to prove to the world that you’re having a good time, just have a good time, hon.

11. I don’t suit fringes and need to stop trying to make them work. I have what some would refer to as a ‘moon face’. By this, I mean that my face resembles a child's illustration of a human - a circle for a head. I have tried having a fringe hairdo (or ‘bangs’ to any American’s out there) around 7 times and it’s been a consistently appalling decision. It just doesn’t work and I’m hoping that writing it down might stop me from convincing myself in the near future that ‘this time I WILL look like Sienna Miller’. I even got drunk and cut my own fringe once and strangely enough, that was the best attempt yet (I received a few compliments but in hindsight, I fear that people thought I’d gone a bit ‘Girl Interrupted’ and were merely concerned I was having a mental breakdown.)

12. Friendships should be 50/50 and if they aren’t, you gotta ditch that bitch. I am very lucky to have some fantastic friends and although theres only a small handful that I would refer to as my best friends, they are worth their weight in gold - friendships are the only thing in life I refuse to settle for. I spent most of my teens/early twenties settling for bad friendships and primarily being attracted to selfish people but I have had to let go of 3 friendships in the last 3 years because they were truly toxic and incredibly one-sided. I started becoming one of those dickheads that focused so much on the negative people, I’d simply ignore the positive humans in my life. If I’m sitting and listening to your problems for hours at a time and you respond to any of my brief woes with a jovial shrug and ‘It’ll get better…anyway, this girl at work…’ then I’ll stop wasting both of our time. Now I have a rule, for every moment I focus on a friend that’s upset me or is acting weird toward me, I focus my mind on the good friends I have and send a little sweet text letting them know I’m thinking of them or I arrange a meet-up with someone I love. Channel those negative vibes and if someones good to you, give them your attention, they deserve it.

13. I will go to great, ugly and disgusting lengths to make my family and my friends laugh. Most of my relationships consist of us egging one other on and attempting to one up each other - and nothing makes me happier. This is why I can’t take a truly good candid photo, I’m always pulling some dumb face or standing in an unflattering manner in an attempt to make someone laugh. My face and body are my greatest comedy tools.

14. Your age shouldn’t determine your interests! I still love Disney and will continue to vacation there when money allows it (those Mickey Mouse shaped pretzels don’t come cheap!) - I get judged for this quite often, ironically the majority of the people that judge my love for my childhood ‘happy place’ are the same people who have an unhealthy obsession with a spectacled boy wizard… I hate the notion of being forced to grow out of interests so I like what I like, and bitch, I can like DisneyWorld whilst still enjoying Nick Broomfield documentaries and reading 'The Vagina Monologues' in my free time.

15. Avocados are overrated and a bit tasteless. I’m sorry but I’ve spent too long pretending to like them. Unless it’s in the form of Guacamole and paired with some salty tortilla chips, I don’t want any part of that green mush. They are a high maintenance grocery to buy and I simply don’t need the added stress.

16. Racecar is spelt the same way when you read it backwards. This fact is a real hit at parties (I rarely go to parties).

17. If I need to recharge after a stressful period, nothing is more effective than listening to a great audiobook or podcast (usually ‘Desert Island Discs’ or ‘How Did This Get Made’), getting an delicious syrup filled coffee and aimlessly wandering somewhere beautiful like Hampstead Heath (this also doubles as a great place to make some dog-friends. Top Tip: keep your headphones in so you can sufficiently ignore the owners of these furbabes). Or I like to visit South Bank and internally mock the tourists for going to the terrible, overpriced attractions like Madame Tussauds. Those silly, dopey fools. A great walk with a nice soundtrack is the cheapest therapy I can get and I wish I’d figured this out a lot sooner.

18. Food colouring WILL change the colour of your poop. Sorry, I know it’s a gross statement but its a lesson I learned this year and I felt it was worth a mention. I will not be answering any follow up questions on this matter, thank you. 

19. Despite my irrational fears, sharks cannot find their way in to any swimming pool I am residing in and they will not pop up in my bath and eat me. This one is still yet to be proven but if I lie to myself and say it’ll never happen, maybe I’ll actually start to believe it. I can thank my sister for this phobia - during my baths as a child, she’d love nothing more than turning the lights off, locking me in the bathroom and humming the Jaws theme loudly until I physically threw myself out of the tub.

20. Your ‘flaws’ matter more to you than anyone else! The list of things I would change about myself is longer than a dull day at work but the flaws I stress about and fear people will point out, for the most part, only matter to me. I’ve always been extremely self conscious of going out socially without make up on and until recently, only a handful of friends had seen my makeup-free mug but after having consistent allergic reactions to some products, I started regularly going to work with almost no make up on and guess what? No one cared. No one made negative comments or made fun of me, instead, people were kind, told me I looked nice and complimented my skin. I expected to arrive at work and be marched out of the building by villagers yelling at me whilst holding fire torches but instead it was a confidence boost and I now regularly opt out of a full face of slap for work - the additional bonus is that I get more time in bed. Everybody wins. Apart from the cosmetic companies but most of them put blusher on chimps so, they’re wankers anyway. 

21. You should never trust a person who hates animals. I, for the most part, dislike the majority of humans but have been proven time and time again in 2017 that it’s a justifiable hatred. Humans are kind of the worst but animals are fantastic. This isn’t up for debate. To me, hating animals is like someone hating films or music - those people should be avoided at all costs (this also goes for anyone who is a genuine fan of Nicolas Cage - avoid!)

22. Monopoly always seems like it will be fun in theory…but nothing brings the mood of a night in with friends down faster then being 10 minutes in to a game of Monopoly and mutually realising how dull it actually is. After fighting over who gets to be the top hat, it’s simply a buzzkill.

23. When people say ‘money can’t buy happiness’ they are lying. Although being wealthy wouldn’t get rid of all of my problems, it would rid of me the money-related stress dreams, the strenuous monthly budgeting I have to do and the fun social occasions I have to opt out of towards the end of the month when money is tight. A couple of years ago, I was in a much higher paid job and hate to admit that I was a bit happier thanks to my lack of money stress. I enjoyed being able to treat myself more when I was sad, I could put sufficient money away in my savings and I would regularly booze the night away without having to seek out venues with a cracking 'happy hour'…So what I’m saying is, give me some money.

24. If I drink anything more than 1 glass of white wine, I will suffer for the next 24 hours. I have extreme PTSD from this past summer where I drank a bottle of white wine in soho and spent over an hour vomiting in the bar toilets whilst my friend sat upstairs alone, waiting to see if I made it out alive. The next day was my everest. Never again. White wine isn’t even tasty enough to be worth it to me. It tastes like urine, agreed? Good.

25. ‘Paying it forward’ gives me the greatest feeling. Whether it’s small things like giving away beauty products I haven’t used to friends, donating clothes to clothes banks, leaving a book I have read and enjoyed in a park with a little note in the front for the new owner or giving away spare tickets to events when your friend can’t attend at the last minute, it warms my soul to pay it forward. It will often make someones day and you’ll get such a love buzz. Also, karma, am I right?!

26. Embrace the body you’re in because it’s the only one you’re gonna get, toots. I have spent so much of my life hating the body I am in but this past year I have had my own personal moments of ‘bravery’. I spent an entire spa day in a bathing suit and strutted around like a fucking sassy peacock, I went for walks on the beach in nothing but a high waisted 50’s style bikini and I have spent 99% of the time in my flat wandering around ‘pooh bear style’ (in a t-shirt and no bottoms - shoutout to my flatmates for putting up with this). Embracing my body in these small ways feels great and although I have a long way to go with accepting the skin I’m in, it feels amazing to finally feel a bit more free being me. You look in that mirror honey, get your birthday suit on and you loudly tell yourself 3 things you love about your body!

27. Journalling daily has become like therapy to me. On January 1st 2014, I was feeling quite down after a fight with my Mum over a trip to Ikea (seriously.) and decided to write down some thoughts. The next day I did the same thing and 4 years later, I have documented (almost) every single day since. Thoughts, feelings, ideas and memories. It’s soothing to have a place that I can say anything, I can be completely candid and I can rid my mind of the thoughts I’ve been dwelling on. I can’t imagine a life where I don’t journal now and it’s truly the only thing I have been able to ‘stick to’ (apart from overeating). Over the 4 years, I have missed 5 days, 4 of which were my first trip to Download Festival a few years ago where I couldn’t find a pen/was too drunk and the 5th was a while ago when my drink was spiked and I lost myself for 24 hours (a story for a different time). I love reading my journal entries back and studying the ways in which I have changed as a person and remembering small moments I might have otherwise forgotten - and as someone who finds cute stationary practically pornographic, the annual buying of new notebooks is one of my yearly highlights. 


So there it is, 27 things I have learned about myself, the world and the people around me. When sitting down to write this, I worried that I wouldn’t be able to come up with 27 separate things but it flowed from me like that 'blood elevator' scene in The Shining. There’s nothing quite like purging pages of thoughts at the end of a year. Happy New Year!

 Love Faye xoxo

Sunday, 12 November 2017

Stranger Things made me feel strange (& things)

Warning: Spoilers ahead…but, ‘Stranger Things’ has been out for ages so if it gets spoilt for you, it’s no ones fault but your own. 

  • Started watching ‘Stranger Things’ series 1 - Thursday, 7pm
  • Finished watching ‘Stranger Things’ series 2 - Sunday, 9pm

The hollow feeling I am currently experiencing since completing the first 2 series of ‘Stranger Things’ is growing at a rapid speed reminiscent to a baby Demogorgon. Why am I feeling this way? Is it the dread of now having to wait a year for series 3? Is it self hatred for knowing that a mere week ago I referred to Stranger Things as ‘an overrated show about kids running around at night’? Is it the shame of bingeing two entire series in the space four evenings? Is it the disappointment at knowing that Barb is in fact fully dead and won’t be in the 3rd series? No. No, No and No. It was envy.  Intense ‘Jonathan hiding in the woods and taking pictures of Nancy while she hooks up with Steve’ levels of envy. Allow me to explain…

I have been thinking about the burden of ageing a lot lately and do you want me to let you in on a great trick to amplifying that horrible gut wrenching feeling? Watch a TV show filled to the youthful brim with excessively talented, highly confident and obscenely wealthy children that are not only half your age but are experiencing more success in their careers than you probably EVER will. I’m jealous and I do not feel good about it. You can’t swing an Eggo Waffle in the air these days without hitting some internet meme with the adorable kids saying sassy things to talk show hosts or video clips of them displaying yet another talent such as singing, rapping or modelling. With the constant exposure and relentless internet presence, these kids are basically the new Kardashians and pretty much impossible to avoid, I’m just waiting for them all to start filling their social medias with waist trainers and skinny detox teas. Asides from the jealousy of a group of rich adolescents, I’m also sad I won’t see Steve’s face for a while but I have been able to fill that void easily with the frequent instagram stories Joe Keery posts. One of his most recent posts involved Joe brushing his teeth in the street in silence. I watched it three times. 

In less than 2 months I am turning 27 and to be brutally honest, I don’t feel like I have earned it. I haven’t seen enough, done enough, tried enough or been brave enough. I’m old before my time and I have no one to blame but myself. I’m 26 going on 62 and I’ve not accomplished nearly as much as I thought I would have by this age! My life is made up of routines, resentments and actual repercussions for my actions - example: there are SO many drugs I’ve never tried. I can’t just decide at my age to try a proper drug for the first time! I have bills, rent, a pension plan and a student loan I’ll have paid off in around 34 years time. The time for reckless experimentation is gone, I now have to display my bravery with acts like trying a new speciality latte without hearing any favourable reviews first. It might taste terrible but it’s all just a part of the journey. 

I know its overly dramatic but I can’t help but find the prospect of turning 27 a bit scary. The Spice Girls were all in their early twenties when I was a peace sign wielding child and to me, THEY were proper adults but here I am, now older than they all were when ‘Wannabe’ came out and what do I have to show for it? I have zero number 1 hits under my belt. I don’t think I even own a belt! What kind of adult doesn’t own a belt! Worse than that, at 27, if I were to get pregnant, the initial reaction from my friends and family wouldn’t be ‘BUT YOU’RE TOO YOUNG! WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO, HOW DID YOU LET THIS HAPPEN?!’ instead, people would congratulate me, give me advice of fantastic places to get discounted baby chachki’s and give me their seats on the tube. I don’t want your seat! I want your judgement for me being so young and foolish, I can’t raise a baby, I’m basically a child myself! I think it’s clear by now that it’s a confusing time for me and I’m maybe not coping well. I am fiercely independent but can occasionally find myself in an incredibly childish mindset. The childish side of me just keeps secretly hoping I’ll stumble across a time machine at some point and can go back to being 10 years old with zero pressures or responsibilities (and no periods please) and I can have a second chance at setting up a life for myself. I’m a Britney enigma - not a girl, not yet a woman.

Would 13 year old Faye be proud of 26 year old Faye? No she wouldn’t. She’d probably be disappointed and a bit bummed that she wouldn’t grow out of her weight issues despite her mum constantly telling her she would. But these annoyingly wonderful ‘Stranger Things’ kids won’t have the same woes I did, they might even get to narrowly avoid the ‘awkward stage’ every teenager goes through where they try new risky trends for the first time and get mocked by their cruel peers - they'll have stylists who’ll help guide them seamlessly into chic (and probably successful) adulthood. If I had to have an awkward phase where I used a foundation 4 shades darker than my actual skin because that’s the only one I could manage to steal from Superdrug and a mascara so clumpy that you could count my eyelashes on one hand, then so should they. It’s only fair. Millie Bobby Brown is already a celebrated fashionista and has appeared in British Vogue at the tender age of 13 and I still get nervous when I wear anything that isn’t black. Where is the justice?! But there’s no time like the present to start making more of an effort to be the person I envisioned being when I was a child. Now don’t get me wrong, I can’t turn in to Hannah Montana overnight (my childhood dream) but I can be braver, be more confident and work with what I’ve got. I’ll try settling for easy options less and will promise to try enjoying myself more along the way and who knows? Maybe I’ll even make the old Faye proud (or even better, I’ll make the current one proud). I vow to embrace getting older and stress about it less, I just need to remind myself that I still have time to achieve great things - that is if Netflix stops creating life-consuming content. The man-hours wasted on that damn streaming service, I could have climbed a mountain or completed Super Mario Bros on my Nintendo DS (I’ll get around to that at some point I’m sure. Maybe when I retire at the tender age of 97?).

But for now, as a self imposed coping mechanism for filling the entertainment void and distracting my mind from the horrible quarter life crisis I have found myself in since finishing ‘Stranger Things’, I have now started bingeing ‘The Girlfriend Experience’ which admittedly is basically terrible and the protagonist Christine is less ‘Nancy’ and more ‘creepy phalic slimy vine from the Upside Down’ but I have promised myself that I’d wait until at least the new year to binge my new favourite show from the beginning again so…lets all look forward to another rant/bout of insecurity in January. 

See you at the Snow Ball. Bitchin'.

Faye x

Saturday, 21 October 2017

Thoughts From a Flight

The following blog post was written whilst I was tipsy and sleep deprived. I opted to not edit it as I would like to read back on it in its full authenticity. Enjoy.

'Thoughts From a Flight' 

Current Altitude: 37,000 feet
Time to Destination: approx 4 hours to go
Food Eaten: a handful of ‘Jelly Belly’ jelly beans & a questionable Curried Beef with potatoes
Drinks Consumed: 2 Proseccos (when boarding), 2 G&T’s, 1 large glass of Chardonnay & 1 coke
Friends Made on Flight: 0

Turbulence is rife. I am now measuring the severity of it by how much my boobs shake around in this comfortable but not-so-supportive bralette. Should I have worn an appropriate bra today? No I shouldn’t have because underwire was clearly designed by a vile man as punishment to women for having breasts. That man was probably a loud mouthed misogynist but behind closed doors spent a small fortune on buying women’s used underwear instead of his alimony payments. 

I am on my way back to London after a fortnight long break in Orlando Florida where I drank many sugary (and potent) cocktails, ate every Mickey Mouse shaped food I could get my grubby mitts on and walked on the beach frequently in the pursuit of pretty shells to give my forever-foraging mother as a gift. It’s been great and although I’m looking forward to seeing my main squeeze (London) and sleeping in my own bed, I am dreading getting back to reality. It won’t be too much of an adjustment though because despite how dreamy this holiday has been, I have still set an alarm every morning thanks for my inherent fear of sleeping my life away. Life just moves so quickly - *insert Ferris Bueller quote here at a later date. Or don’t for fear that you’ll get one word wrong and everyone will assume you’ve never even seen the film and that you’re a giant faker! It simultaneously feels like I’ve been away for 5 minutes and 5 months. I haven’t cooked, washed a dish or done any laundry in over 2 weeks and its been fantastic - I will adopt this same lifestyle as soon as I make it rich or marry a wealthy old man I’m not emotionally attached to but he thinks it’s endearing how much I love buying things so I consider him ‘a keeper’ and beg my family to understand my life choices during our incredibly awkward Christmas mornings together.

When boarding the plane, I couldn’t help but wonder if the pilots sitting 6 feet in front of me ever dread their ‘shift’. This current flight I’m on is roughly 8 hours which is the same duration I muster through 5 days out of the week - difference is, I can leave the office for an hour in the day to go play outside or eat a burrito and if I have an ‘off’ day where I’m not feeling good and get things wrong, no one dies. Probably an inappropriate thought to be having whilst in the midst of some pretty shaky turbulence but it makes me thankful for the differences in repercussions that come with our chosen career paths. Like, I can even drink at my job and STILL not kill anyone as a result. There is a lot of turbulence though so maybe my pilot has been drinking? It’s hard to tell and I’m not allowed in the cockpit despite hinting to the cabin crew multiple times that I’d love a tour of the aircraft. They probably assume it’s the drink talking and they are probably right.   

Podcasts are the perfect distraction whilst I am tossed around mercilessly like a bad handjob. I’m now re-listening to series 2 of the infamous (but clearly scripted) powerhouse ‘My Dad Wrote a Porno’ after happily consuming the first 3 episodes of Sarah Jessica Parker’s new TV show ‘Divorce’ - it’s funny, a far cry from the love to hate antics of Carrie Bradshaw and brilliantly written. 5 stars! The turbulence started around an hour ago whilst I had resorted to hiding in the toilets to paint my nails with the new OPI nail polish I bought at Duty Free. I tried to slyly give myself a manicure in my seat but my Dad - who is occupying the seat to my left - upon me opening the nail polish for a mere second shouted loudly ‘THAT SMELLS BLOODY AWFUL!! WERE IN A CONFINED SPACE!!’, Dad isn’t one for hiding his feelings or sparing my dignity but to be honest, after sitting in the tiny toilet cubicle with my nail polish and no ventilation for 5 minutes, I began to think he was right. I will not tell him this but by the way he smirkily asked me ‘was that worth it?’ as I sat back down in my seat, he knew he had won this battle of wits. 

Anyway, this tipsy rambling has been great and will no doubt be a riot to read back when I have fully sobered up and haven't been awake for 19 hours straight. I’ll make sure to post a picture on my social networks as soon as I’m back on english soil with the witty and super relevant caption ‘Just touched down in London town’ or something about how cold it is so you know I’m home safe.

Peace.


Faye x